ellatio is oral sex performed on a man. It is a great way to give pleasure; regardless of whether it is for foreplay, after play, or the main event. Like all other sexual skills, they must be learned, so communication is highly recommended. Whether the communication is before, during, or after, it is essential to learn the art. Finding out what he likes will invariably go a long way towards performing mind-blowing oral sex.
Keep in mind, when you are performing oral sex, you are doing this for him. Sending negative vibes about not wanting to or how much of a chore it is will take away from his experience. If you act enthusiastic, chances are it will be over faster, and it will be your turn to receive. If you are really against performing fellatio, explain to your partner why you don’t, and don’t allow him to force you if you are uncomfortable.
Cleanliness is essential with virtually all forms of sexual play; particularly in oral sex where a bad taste or smell will undoubtedly dampen enthusiasm on the part of the giver. A bath or shower is a great primer, and can be the start of the festivities. If you are uncomfortable with a particular smell that your partner may have, suggest taking a shower with you, because you’ve had a busy day and don’t feel clean. You don’t want to point out the smell (unless it is a very common occurrence and can be prevented), as that will only lead to anxieties and take away from the overall experience.
Positioning
Finding an agreeable position for fellatio is usually not a difficult task. Both the man receiving fellatio and the person performing it need to be comfortable. For deep throating, it is wiser to choose a position where the angle of the penis and the angle of your throat are somewhat aligned. For a better look at positions for oral sex, have a look in our sexual position section.
The Basics
Too often oral sex is initiated by sucking on the penis. To achieve a more powerful orgasm, it is better practice to start with some teasing. With the exception of a quickie, fellatio should be started with some well placed teasing. Start by kissing and licking around his penis, on the inner thighs, then on to his testicles, and then slowly up his shaft towards his glans (the head of his penis). Once you get there, use your tongue to tickle him around the glans, and especially on his frenulum, the split on the underside of his penis. At this point, he should be hard as a rock and super-sensitive to everything that you do. You can continue teasing if you like, but we don’t recommend teasing too long, as this can become frustrating for the receiver.
One common problem women performing fellatio make is using only their mouth to repeatedly stroke his penis. They continue doing this until either it works, or they get a sore jaw and neck. A good “blow job” should not be too repetitive, should include stroking using a hand and the exploration of his testicles, thighs and (if you and he like) the anal region. By mixing up your style, you allow your muscles to relax, you can avoid getting a sore neck and you can improve your performance.
How you mix it up should depend on what your partner’s likes. Although there is a lot to say about fellatio that can get the job done in a matter of minutes, it is the longer ones that usually result in more intense orgasms, and coincidently are remembered. (Click here to read about stroking techniques).
It is a good idea to keep an eye on his scrotum (his testicle “sack”), as it is usually a good indicator of how close he is to coming. As a guy gets closer to climax, the skin on his scrotum tightens and pulls his testicles towards his body to warm them up. You can let this happen on its own, or help out by stimulating his testicles with a hand, tongue, or mouth.
More Advanced
Once you get the basics, and are comfortable and experienced with them, there are a lot of options to increase the pleasure. One option is using lubricants on his shaft. This will allow you to stroke faster without causing irritation. There are a wide variety of products that can be used,this includes: flavored lubricants, lubricants that heat up when blown on or rubbed, water based, oil based and many others. On this note, using whipped cream, spreads, and other food can also be incorporated to make the “blow job” more erotic.
Sex Toys can add more stimulation. Whether it is a regular vibrator, a vibrating cock ring, or an oral simulator, these toys can greatly intensify the stimulation. These days, there is virtually a sex toy for everything and everyone, so check out our toy store to find a product that is perfect for you.
If your man likes to experiment, we recommend stimulating his prostate gland with your finger or an anal toy to take his orgasms to a whole new world of pleasure. For more information on this, please refer to the anal play article.
Another more difficult to master skill is deep throating. In this, the performer takes the entire penis into the mouth and down the throat - hence the name. In many cases, the sensation is so intense that climax in men comes quickly. As enjoyable as this may be, it takes time to learn to control your gag reflex. You can train your gag reflex by trying to take as much of the penis as you can when performing fellatio. Your partner should restrain from any thrusting during this exercise! With time, you will be able to go deeper and deeper, until finally you’ll be able to take the whole thing.
Ejaculation
Most men find it very erotic to have a partner swallow their semen, but if you really don’t feel comfortable with it, don’t do it. Options include: catching it in your mouth, then spitting it out; using a tissue to catch it; or, just letting it shoot and clean up the mess afterwards. To find out more about semen, we suggest reading our article on Male Orgasm & Ejaculation.
Many women stop performing fellatio right after their man ejaculates. Instead, you should continue to gently stimulate orally or with your hand for a minute or two longer. After a climax, the penis becomes much more sensitive, so try giving it to him a little longer. Be careful though, some men find this after-play too intense to handle.
Warnings and Suggestions
Very few men like the feeling of teeth on their penis. Teeth can cause discomfort, cuts, and scratches to the skin if you are not careful. This is easily avoided by tucking your lips around your teeth before you take the penis in your mouth.
The use of condoms is highly recommended in the practice of safer sex. If you are not sure of your partner’s sexual history, it is strongly advised that you use a condom while performing any sexual act. If you want something a little more interesting try using a flavored condom and by all means stay away from the lubricated variety (the lubricants used on condoms taste horrible). A good suggestion for anyone using a condom during fellatio is to buy a flavored lubricant to turn a normal latex condom into a tasty condom.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Hierophilia
Hierophilia or theophilia is the paraphilia involving sexual attraction to religious and sacred objects. The etymology is from the Greek language hieros, meaning sacred or holy.
*Abnormal amount of time spent thinking about sacred or religious objects
*Recurring intense sexual fantasies involving sacred or religious objects
*Recurring intense sexual urges involving sacred or religious objects
*Sexual preference for sacred or religious objects
The other side of this fetish are the people who dabble in hierophiliac activity either for the naughty novelty of it, or as a sexual means of expressing a disdain for religion. Hierophilia themes often find their way into fantasy play with priest collars, rosaries, religious icon sex toys, and Catholic school girl costuming. However, the religious imagery is usually not something that is loved and surrendered to, but rather the representation of what is naive and wholesome and is to be punished or otherwise corrupted.
*Abnormal amount of time spent thinking about sacred or religious objects
*Recurring intense sexual fantasies involving sacred or religious objects
*Recurring intense sexual urges involving sacred or religious objects
*Sexual preference for sacred or religious objects
The other side of this fetish are the people who dabble in hierophiliac activity either for the naughty novelty of it, or as a sexual means of expressing a disdain for religion. Hierophilia themes often find their way into fantasy play with priest collars, rosaries, religious icon sex toys, and Catholic school girl costuming. However, the religious imagery is usually not something that is loved and surrendered to, but rather the representation of what is naive and wholesome and is to be punished or otherwise corrupted.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Oral sex call
This guy loves to be very oral. I love a guy who loves to be very oral. I am someone who loves to be eaten out. It takes talent to make sure that I am pleased orally. He took care of my sweet pussy. He also took my ass and did me anally. We fucked hard. I rode him and came all over his cock. It was a fun call because I was able to get off.
Ball sucking
It is so much fun when guys love to call back. This guy loved the way I sucked his balls. He gets off by a woman sucking his balls. There is this special spot behind his balls that he loves having licked and flicked. There is that sweet spot I love paying attention to. It gets him off so well. I also jack off his cock while I suck his balls. It is a great experience to suck his balls.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
How to attract the opposite gender
1. BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books and nationally-known expert in the field of spatial psychology, where you are in a room (and what you're doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you be for the highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a bit. (But don't pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake...)
If you're in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but, according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink? You'll feel like you've died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table. That hot stranger approaching your table and asking "may I join you" only happens in the movies.
2. THE COLOR LURE
What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you?
According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood, women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why wouldn't we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always there." The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship - someone who's dependable, momogomous and can match his own clothes.
And what about the ladies? Eiseman says women should wear a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The color is "very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow," and according to Eiseman, projects "a little vulnerability which brings out something protective in men."
Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can't handle strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who aren't attracted to strong women will steer clear.
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with caution. "Red is the color of sex and power," says Eiseman. Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of men - men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful women. Sure, you'll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn't threatened by the fact that you make a bigger salary.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what Eiseman calls "squished caterpillar yellow-green" which is said to repel both sexes equally.
3. BODY TALK THAT REELS 'EM IN
How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex? If you're a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable. According to nationally-respected body language expert and professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a "safe" (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish that? Don't take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and superiority.) Wood says, "we are strong women, but remember, we're trying to get a man to come over and talk to us." She explains, "you have to show you have room for someone else in your life."
In addition, Wood says "to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward. " Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt - signal you're listening to what the other person has to say.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space. For men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a spin. According to Mehrabian, men should "try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing," hold your head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
Body language tips for both sexes: Don't fold your arms and don't chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions.
4. THE POWER OF A SMILE
Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick. According to Wood, "the smile is the international signal of friendliness."
5. TEMPTING WITH SCENT
Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume (there's a fabulous one called "Man Magnet" at www.stopgettingdumped.com.)
Aromatherapy experts have long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac. According to Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert , and owner of Herban Avenues, "certain aromatic plants exude oils similar to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. Wearing cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction."
The scent of a woman? Women, according to a recent study, are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, be sure to pick up licorice or Good 'n Plenty at the theater snack bar. And, if you're at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt, don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.
Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books and nationally-known expert in the field of spatial psychology, where you are in a room (and what you're doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you be for the highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a bit. (But don't pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake...)
If you're in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the corners on the bar. Not only will you meet more people, but, according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the corners as well. Interesting conversation AND a full drink? You'll feel like you've died and gone to dating heaven. The worst place to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table. That hot stranger approaching your table and asking "may I join you" only happens in the movies.
2. THE COLOR LURE
What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you?
According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood, women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why wouldn't we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always there." The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship - someone who's dependable, momogomous and can match his own clothes.
And what about the ladies? Eiseman says women should wear a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The color is "very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow," and according to Eiseman, projects "a little vulnerability which brings out something protective in men."
Want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can't handle strong women? Try a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who aren't attracted to strong women will steer clear.
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with caution. "Red is the color of sex and power," says Eiseman. Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of men - men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful women. Sure, you'll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn't threatened by the fact that you make a bigger salary.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what Eiseman calls "squished caterpillar yellow-green" which is said to repel both sexes equally.
3. BODY TALK THAT REELS 'EM IN
How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex? If you're a woman, the key is to make yourself approachable. According to nationally-respected body language expert and professional speaker, Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a "safe" (read approachable) target. How do you accomplish that? Don't take up a lot of space (which is a sign of power and superiority.) Wood says, "we are strong women, but remember, we're trying to get a man to come over and talk to us." She explains, "you have to show you have room for someone else in your life."
In addition, Wood says "to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward. " Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt - signal you're listening to what the other person has to say.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and toes pointing outward. Feel free to take up some space. For men who are victims of the "nice guy" badge, or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a spin. According to Mehrabian, men should "try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing," hold your head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
Body language tips for both sexes: Don't fold your arms and don't chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions.
4. THE POWER OF A SMILE
Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm happy to be here" face will do the trick. According to Wood, "the smile is the international signal of friendliness."
5. TEMPTING WITH SCENT
Studies show that men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. To make the scents work for you, try baking some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume (there's a fabulous one called "Man Magnet" at www.stopgettingdumped.com.)
Aromatherapy experts have long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac. According to Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert , and owner of Herban Avenues, "certain aromatic plants exude oils similar to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. Wearing cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction."
The scent of a woman? Women, according to a recent study, are attracted to a black licorice scent. So, be sure to pick up licorice or Good 'n Plenty at the theater snack bar. And, if you're at a club and happen to spill a little Jaggermeister on your shirt, don't worry about the stain, just consider it your lucky night.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Dendrophilia
Dendrophilia is beyond merely loving trees because he is an eco-warrior or a cardholder of Greenpeace; he attempts to make love to trees. Bizarre? Yes and that is putting it mildly. If such a person were to be nabbed even as he is in the throes of a cosmic orgasm, he will have an Very innocent looking term, this one, meaning “love for trees.’ But a Dendrophile goes beyond merely loving trees because he is an eco-warrior or a cardholder of Greenpeace; he attempts to make love to trees. Bizarre? Yes and that is putting it mildly. If such a person were to be nabbed even as he is in the throes of a cosmic orgasm, he will have an explanation that he is merely propitiating the Tree spirit. No jokes, it is part of the esoteric ritual of certain fertility and back to nature cult group.
Monday, September 20, 2010
First time sex for women
First time sex is a special moment in a woman's life, but can be a scary enterprise. This is particularly true for young women, who are afraid of the fabled pain. It is true that some pain may occur. This is because the hymen, a connective tissue that rests over the opening of the vagina, tears and ruptures upon the insertion of a penis.
While this may sound terrifying, the pain associated with losing your virginity will quickly abate and in some cases, you may not experience much pain at all. If you are considering having sex for the first time, there are some things you can do to make it not only special, but memorable.
Remember, these first time sex tips for women are but a guideline – they don't necessarily have to follow any order. When it comes to your first time having sex, it is all about instinct and your chosen partner.
First Time Sex Tip #1: Communicate
Your first time having sex will be fraught with anxiety. First time sex can indeed be a wonderful experience if you talk through your reservations. The partner you choose for the event should be receptive to your thoughts and willing to listen. If you can't talk to the man you have chosen, you probably haven't found the right first time sex partner.
First Time Sex Tip #2: Proper Setting
Introducing a romantic element is key to enjoying first time sex. Every woman has their own idea of romance and it may not involve candy and flowers. Communication once again enters the picture. If this will be your first time having sex, then you owe it to yourself and your lover to plan ahead. Let him know what you want. If he cares about you, he will be more than happy to accommodate your wants and needs.
First Time Sex Tip #3: Be Safe
Condoms and pills should be on the list of must haves for the first time. Contrary to what a person may think, you can get pregnant the very first time. Young lovers may not know enough about reproduction to know how to be careful, so it is best to have protection.
First Time Sex Tip #4: Remain Calm
Half of the cause for pain, outside the breaking of the hymen, is fear. Being rigid and unresponsive can cause issues with the actual sex act. Relax and tell yourself that millions of women have come to this cross road and lived. It is a natural aspect of life – you will do fine.
Sex for the first time doesn't have to be a fear inducing moment. If you have found the right guy, he will make it as pleasurable and wonderful as he can.
As I said prior, these first time sex tips for women will only go so far – you will have to make the moment for yourself, and that moment will be grand!
While this may sound terrifying, the pain associated with losing your virginity will quickly abate and in some cases, you may not experience much pain at all. If you are considering having sex for the first time, there are some things you can do to make it not only special, but memorable.
Remember, these first time sex tips for women are but a guideline – they don't necessarily have to follow any order. When it comes to your first time having sex, it is all about instinct and your chosen partner.
First Time Sex Tip #1: Communicate
Your first time having sex will be fraught with anxiety. First time sex can indeed be a wonderful experience if you talk through your reservations. The partner you choose for the event should be receptive to your thoughts and willing to listen. If you can't talk to the man you have chosen, you probably haven't found the right first time sex partner.
First Time Sex Tip #2: Proper Setting
Introducing a romantic element is key to enjoying first time sex. Every woman has their own idea of romance and it may not involve candy and flowers. Communication once again enters the picture. If this will be your first time having sex, then you owe it to yourself and your lover to plan ahead. Let him know what you want. If he cares about you, he will be more than happy to accommodate your wants and needs.
First Time Sex Tip #3: Be Safe
Condoms and pills should be on the list of must haves for the first time. Contrary to what a person may think, you can get pregnant the very first time. Young lovers may not know enough about reproduction to know how to be careful, so it is best to have protection.
First Time Sex Tip #4: Remain Calm
Half of the cause for pain, outside the breaking of the hymen, is fear. Being rigid and unresponsive can cause issues with the actual sex act. Relax and tell yourself that millions of women have come to this cross road and lived. It is a natural aspect of life – you will do fine.
Sex for the first time doesn't have to be a fear inducing moment. If you have found the right guy, he will make it as pleasurable and wonderful as he can.
As I said prior, these first time sex tips for women will only go so far – you will have to make the moment for yourself, and that moment will be grand!
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Kinky Sex tips
As a sexually uninhibited person, you have tried it all. You have even sought out and mastered 101 Tantric positions and had a threesome or two. Now, somewhat jaded, you are ready to enter into the realm of extreme kinky sex techniques.
Well, the basic principles behind great kinky sex involve entering a realm that interests you and exploring it with a willing partner. For example, if the idea of tying your lover to the bed and ravishing their body excites you, then the BDSM and Fetish societies may be appealing.
In fact, for people interested in extreme kinky sex techniques, BDSM and Fetish groups have much to offer.
Note: While the Dom/Sub or Master/slave relationships exist in both the BDSM and Fetish societies (Fetish is a subculture of BDSM), it is more prevalent in BDSM.
Be sure to distinguish what each group does and where you may fit in. Once you make this all important determination, you will be bale to get on with the business of having great kinky sex.
Kinky Sex Tip #1: Explore Bondage and Domination:
Like being tied up or subduing your partner? Do you enjoy using your intellect to bring a willing captive to surrender? Bondage and domination is for you.
In BD, kinky sex techniques often involve ropes and specialized tying rituals that place your lover in the most provocative and helpless positions.
Unable to move, a BD Master can have their way with their adoring captive.
The domination aspect is primarily mental – for instance, you may tie your partner to a chair, turn off the lights but not tell them where you are. In this manner, you can leave them wondering if and when you will pounce. Such a tantalizing and kinky sex techniques will have your lover panting and wet before you even enter them.
In other words, great kinky sex can be had by screwing with the mind of your lover prior to coitus.
The various rope tying techniques can be pretty intricate and is best taught by a Dom/Domme who has done this type of thing for a number of years.
Kinky Sex Tip #2: Explore Sado–Masochism:
As the name implies, Sado–masochism is a kinky sex ritual that involves a sexual sadist and a sexual masochist. This is also what people typically think of when they think of “Fetish”, although this is in error.
A practicing couple is usually called a Top/bottom or Master/slave. Masters and Mistresses often carry floggers or handcuffs when dressed for play and slaves generally wear collars to signify being “owned”.
Floggers, whips, racks, paddles, electro sex toys and Saint Andrews crosses (A giant wooden “X” like structure for tying and subduing submissive) are often used during the extreme kinky sex techniques that surround Sado–masochism. Please remember: These acts are always consensual. Under no circumstance is a pet or submissive supposed to be harmed against their will. Most times, the Master and pet have sat down and mapped out “a scene.” which can involve sensual torture or flogging sessions. During this time they may devise “safe words” which will be used to let their Master know how much is too much without breaking the scene. I once knew a Dom whose “stop” safe word was mercy, but most use the red, yellow or green system.
Flogging and racking are the most popular SM kinky sex techniques, but a practiced hand is necessary to ensure safety. As with anything, it is best to learn from a pro before getting started.
Kinky Sex Tip #3: Explore Fetish
people who have a particular sexual fixation fall under the caption of a Fetishist. Unlike BDSM enthusiast, who may get into a variety of play, people in this society generally like to get off in a very specific way.
24/7 Swingers and those who have a sexual fixation with hands, feet, stockings, golden showers (urine play) or scatological acts (smearing or eating of feces) are all considered fetishist.
In regard to extreme kinky sex techniques, there is no end to possibilities here. The only boundary would be your imagination (and your likes or dislikes). Try several different things. Put on a pair of ladies underwear or cross dress if you are a guy – request a golden shower if it enters your mind…
There is no limit to what you can gravitate towards when it comes to kinky sex techniques.
Extreme kinky sex techniques start with defining your own tastes. Once you are able to pinpoint them, find a local society that shares your ideas. These local clubs will have information on how to engage in extreme kinky sex techniques in a safe, sane and consensual manner. Knowing what to do and what not to do will help you have great kinky sex, endowing you with the tools necessary to continue on your path of sexual discovery.
Well, the basic principles behind great kinky sex involve entering a realm that interests you and exploring it with a willing partner. For example, if the idea of tying your lover to the bed and ravishing their body excites you, then the BDSM and Fetish societies may be appealing.
In fact, for people interested in extreme kinky sex techniques, BDSM and Fetish groups have much to offer.
Note: While the Dom/Sub or Master/slave relationships exist in both the BDSM and Fetish societies (Fetish is a subculture of BDSM), it is more prevalent in BDSM.
Be sure to distinguish what each group does and where you may fit in. Once you make this all important determination, you will be bale to get on with the business of having great kinky sex.
Kinky Sex Tip #1: Explore Bondage and Domination:
Like being tied up or subduing your partner? Do you enjoy using your intellect to bring a willing captive to surrender? Bondage and domination is for you.
In BD, kinky sex techniques often involve ropes and specialized tying rituals that place your lover in the most provocative and helpless positions.
Unable to move, a BD Master can have their way with their adoring captive.
The domination aspect is primarily mental – for instance, you may tie your partner to a chair, turn off the lights but not tell them where you are. In this manner, you can leave them wondering if and when you will pounce. Such a tantalizing and kinky sex techniques will have your lover panting and wet before you even enter them.
In other words, great kinky sex can be had by screwing with the mind of your lover prior to coitus.
The various rope tying techniques can be pretty intricate and is best taught by a Dom/Domme who has done this type of thing for a number of years.
Kinky Sex Tip #2: Explore Sado–Masochism:
As the name implies, Sado–masochism is a kinky sex ritual that involves a sexual sadist and a sexual masochist. This is also what people typically think of when they think of “Fetish”, although this is in error.
A practicing couple is usually called a Top/bottom or Master/slave. Masters and Mistresses often carry floggers or handcuffs when dressed for play and slaves generally wear collars to signify being “owned”.
Floggers, whips, racks, paddles, electro sex toys and Saint Andrews crosses (A giant wooden “X” like structure for tying and subduing submissive) are often used during the extreme kinky sex techniques that surround Sado–masochism. Please remember: These acts are always consensual. Under no circumstance is a pet or submissive supposed to be harmed against their will. Most times, the Master and pet have sat down and mapped out “a scene.” which can involve sensual torture or flogging sessions. During this time they may devise “safe words” which will be used to let their Master know how much is too much without breaking the scene. I once knew a Dom whose “stop” safe word was mercy, but most use the red, yellow or green system.
Flogging and racking are the most popular SM kinky sex techniques, but a practiced hand is necessary to ensure safety. As with anything, it is best to learn from a pro before getting started.
Kinky Sex Tip #3: Explore Fetish
people who have a particular sexual fixation fall under the caption of a Fetishist. Unlike BDSM enthusiast, who may get into a variety of play, people in this society generally like to get off in a very specific way.
24/7 Swingers and those who have a sexual fixation with hands, feet, stockings, golden showers (urine play) or scatological acts (smearing or eating of feces) are all considered fetishist.
In regard to extreme kinky sex techniques, there is no end to possibilities here. The only boundary would be your imagination (and your likes or dislikes). Try several different things. Put on a pair of ladies underwear or cross dress if you are a guy – request a golden shower if it enters your mind…
There is no limit to what you can gravitate towards when it comes to kinky sex techniques.
Extreme kinky sex techniques start with defining your own tastes. Once you are able to pinpoint them, find a local society that shares your ideas. These local clubs will have information on how to engage in extreme kinky sex techniques in a safe, sane and consensual manner. Knowing what to do and what not to do will help you have great kinky sex, endowing you with the tools necessary to continue on your path of sexual discovery.
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Cross sex position
Here is a sex position to try. Let me know how it goes.
Cross -- The woman should lie flat on the bed and open her legs to allow the man to enter her. The man should lie diagonally across the woman and rock gently from side to side after penetration. The woman can use her hands to control his movements and guide him. This position works with either the man or woman on top.
Cross -- The woman should lie flat on the bed and open her legs to allow the man to enter her. The man should lie diagonally across the woman and rock gently from side to side after penetration. The woman can use her hands to control his movements and guide him. This position works with either the man or woman on top.
Friday, September 17, 2010
Ball licking
This guy is so funny. He called and wanted me to lick his balls. He loved having me lick his balls and get him off. It was so much fun. He got off so quickly. He loved it and I loved licking them so much.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Names for sex
There are names to call sex without calling it sex. It is always interesting to see what people call it. Here are a few of what I have thought of and what I have found. What do you call it?
*Doing the freaky nasty
*Buttering the muffing
*Horizontal mambo
*Poke her
*Making babies
*Play chess
*Get down to business
*Hanging out
*Doing it
*Knocking boots
*Rubbing one out
*Playing house
*Wrestling
*Meat injection
*Doing the naughty
*Going to work
*Studying biology
*Playing contact sports
*Horizontal bop
*Banging
*Gitting buzy
*Doing the do
*Pollinating the flower
*Doing the freaky nasty
*Buttering the muffing
*Horizontal mambo
*Poke her
*Making babies
*Play chess
*Get down to business
*Hanging out
*Doing it
*Knocking boots
*Rubbing one out
*Playing house
*Wrestling
*Meat injection
*Doing the naughty
*Going to work
*Studying biology
*Playing contact sports
*Horizontal bop
*Banging
*Gitting buzy
*Doing the do
*Pollinating the flower
Monday, September 13, 2010
Places to have sex
Sex is so much fun. It is great to make sex so interesting and to do it in different places. I know I have done it in different places in my life. I love to make it more interesting while I am traveling or with a new partner. Here are some ideas I have thought of and thought I would share with you. I will share with you some places I have had sex. Please feel free to share where you have had sex.
*In the mud during a light rain
*In the foam pad at the local gymnastics academy
*Under the bleachers during a sporting even
*On a tanning bed
*At a ski resort in the gondola as you ride to the top of the mountain
*On the boat, in the middle of the lake
*In a Jacuzzi tub filled with bubbles
*In a tree
*On the top of a fire truck
*On the rooftop of a hotel or other building
*On a huge stack of pillows on the floor
*In the middle of an apple orchard
*Inside a butterfly house or sanctuary
*On a blanket at center ice of a rink
*On a bare waterbed or mattress covered with baby oil
*On the hood of a sports car
*In a coat closet at a party
*In the mud during a light rain
*In the foam pad at the local gymnastics academy
*Under the bleachers during a sporting even
*On a tanning bed
*At a ski resort in the gondola as you ride to the top of the mountain
*On the boat, in the middle of the lake
*In a Jacuzzi tub filled with bubbles
*In a tree
*On the top of a fire truck
*On the rooftop of a hotel or other building
*On a huge stack of pillows on the floor
*In the middle of an apple orchard
*Inside a butterfly house or sanctuary
*On a blanket at center ice of a rink
*On a bare waterbed or mattress covered with baby oil
*On the hood of a sports car
*In a coat closet at a party
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Ways to maintain a sex life
There are ways to maintain a healthy sex life. I love to help. I love to maintain my sex life. I love sex and love to find new ways to make it better. I found some ways to make it better and thought I would share.
1. Stress the Emotional Bonds of Sex
Sex should be about more than just physical gratification. It's a means of enhancing your relationship with each other and of expressing the emotional connections you both share. Strive to make sex romantic and exciting. Emphasize mood enhancers like lit candles, rose petals and a romantic evening out on the town. Be aware of your partner's needs and wishes during sex and strive to make him happy as much as he makes you happy. Talk about your sex life with your partner and find out what excites him. The connections you make will improve not only your sex life, but also your connection as a couple.
2. Masturbate
"Don't knock masturbation," Woody Allen said famously, "It's sex with someone I love." While people may feel odd about masturbating when they're in a committed relationship, it can be a very helpful tool in a healthy sex life. Make it part of the sex act itself, either as a form of foreplay with your partner or as a means of "warming up" beforehand. You can also use it on your own to explore the things you find arousing and learn how to control your arousal in order to extend sexual sessions with your partner.
3. Stay in Shape
Exercise is an excellent way to raise your overall energy levels and have more stamina in the bedroom. Experts recommend cardiovascular exercise, such as running, swimming and cycling in particular. It increases the blood flow in the body and emphasizes endurance. Exercises specifically aimed at a healthy sex life can be stressed too. Tantric techniques can be explored, and more direct exercises, such as kegel exercising (strengthening the woman's vaginal muscles) and PC exercising (strengthening the man's pelvic muscles), can help as well.
4. Respect Your Partner's Wishes
This includes being attentive to her in the bedroom and seeing to her needs as much as your own. But it also includes listening when she may not be in the mood for sex or noticing when her motor is really running. Postpone sex if it doesn't feel right for her, or set aside other activities if she really wants it. You should expect your partner to reciprocate and be attentive to your needs as well. Make sex a choice rather than an obligation and seek out ways in which both of you can enjoy it every time you have it.
If you have ways that would make it better please feel free to share.
1. Stress the Emotional Bonds of Sex
Sex should be about more than just physical gratification. It's a means of enhancing your relationship with each other and of expressing the emotional connections you both share. Strive to make sex romantic and exciting. Emphasize mood enhancers like lit candles, rose petals and a romantic evening out on the town. Be aware of your partner's needs and wishes during sex and strive to make him happy as much as he makes you happy. Talk about your sex life with your partner and find out what excites him. The connections you make will improve not only your sex life, but also your connection as a couple.
2. Masturbate
"Don't knock masturbation," Woody Allen said famously, "It's sex with someone I love." While people may feel odd about masturbating when they're in a committed relationship, it can be a very helpful tool in a healthy sex life. Make it part of the sex act itself, either as a form of foreplay with your partner or as a means of "warming up" beforehand. You can also use it on your own to explore the things you find arousing and learn how to control your arousal in order to extend sexual sessions with your partner.
3. Stay in Shape
Exercise is an excellent way to raise your overall energy levels and have more stamina in the bedroom. Experts recommend cardiovascular exercise, such as running, swimming and cycling in particular. It increases the blood flow in the body and emphasizes endurance. Exercises specifically aimed at a healthy sex life can be stressed too. Tantric techniques can be explored, and more direct exercises, such as kegel exercising (strengthening the woman's vaginal muscles) and PC exercising (strengthening the man's pelvic muscles), can help as well.
4. Respect Your Partner's Wishes
This includes being attentive to her in the bedroom and seeing to her needs as much as your own. But it also includes listening when she may not be in the mood for sex or noticing when her motor is really running. Postpone sex if it doesn't feel right for her, or set aside other activities if she really wants it. You should expect your partner to reciprocate and be attentive to your needs as well. Make sex a choice rather than an obligation and seek out ways in which both of you can enjoy it every time you have it.
If you have ways that would make it better please feel free to share.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Pony Play
There are so many different things that go on with BDsM. Here is one that might interest you.
Pony play - a subculture all its own, pony play combines various techniques of bondage, control, and more to create a unique form of play that involves the submissive taking on the persona of a pony. 'Ponies' are used for shows, cart pulling, and dressage training. Hand signals, whips, and clickers can be used to create communication between the pony and trainer.
Pony play - a subculture all its own, pony play combines various techniques of bondage, control, and more to create a unique form of play that involves the submissive taking on the persona of a pony. 'Ponies' are used for shows, cart pulling, and dressage training. Hand signals, whips, and clickers can be used to create communication between the pony and trainer.
Monday, September 6, 2010
Humiliation
It is wonderful when a guy gives you free reign on making fun and humiliate them. I chose to make fun of their cock. It is great to tell them that they have a small cock. It can never satisfy any woman. It is one of those things that can never be put inside of a woman and be felt. It is great to tell friends about how small a guy is and how they cannot satisfy me.
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Give her multiple orgams
There are ways to give a woman multiple orgasms. It is a matter of finding ways to make sure that the woman you are with is happy and gets her orgasms too. Here are some ways to do it. First, create an atmosphere. Second, sweet talk her. Third, try different variations like vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation. Fourth, make it all about her. That will make it so much better and she will be more relaxed.
Friday, September 3, 2010
Tips for quickies
Sex is truly at its best when there is plenty of variety. Long love making sessions in the bedroom are wonderful, but don’t underestimate the excitement of quickies. You can do it anywhere and anytime if you plan the rendezvous to fit into your time constraints.
Fun Places To Do It
Part of the fun of quickies is opening up the venue possibilities!
* In the car
* At the office
* In the bed
* On the table
* On the couch
* In the shower
* On the washing machine
* On the kitchen counter
* In the pool
Useful Things To Have Handy For Quickies
Sometimes being unprepared can stop you from getting it on, so pack yourself a little bag of quickie essentials
* Lube
* Towel
* Condom
* Finger Vibrator
Fitting Sex Into Your Busy Schedule
An unexpected quickie isn’t always an easy thing to pull off. Sometimes you’ve got to get creative and plan ahead.
* Get right to it so that you have as much time as possible for the actual sex.
* Make it a strictly oral encounter.
* Be ready to jump your lover the minute they get home (be sitting on the dryer naked or in the bed with all of your quickie essentials ready)
* If you’ve got enough faith in your partner’s skills, call or text him from the other room, the car, or wherever you are to let him know he’s got 10 minutes and the timer is running.
Fun Places To Do It
Part of the fun of quickies is opening up the venue possibilities!
* In the car
* At the office
* In the bed
* On the table
* On the couch
* In the shower
* On the washing machine
* On the kitchen counter
* In the pool
Useful Things To Have Handy For Quickies
Sometimes being unprepared can stop you from getting it on, so pack yourself a little bag of quickie essentials
* Lube
* Towel
* Condom
* Finger Vibrator
Fitting Sex Into Your Busy Schedule
An unexpected quickie isn’t always an easy thing to pull off. Sometimes you’ve got to get creative and plan ahead.
* Get right to it so that you have as much time as possible for the actual sex.
* Make it a strictly oral encounter.
* Be ready to jump your lover the minute they get home (be sitting on the dryer naked or in the bed with all of your quickie essentials ready)
* If you’ve got enough faith in your partner’s skills, call or text him from the other room, the car, or wherever you are to let him know he’s got 10 minutes and the timer is running.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Vagina names
You know that people nickname their body parts. It is that way with the female vagina. Here are some. I am sure that there are others that you have.
Tunnel of love
Cock holster
Pastrami meat flaps
Pin cushion
Catchers mitt
Batters cage
Wound that never heals
Bearded clam
Beef curtain
Hoo haa
Coochi
If you have thought of any, please comment.
Tunnel of love
Cock holster
Pastrami meat flaps
Pin cushion
Catchers mitt
Batters cage
Wound that never heals
Bearded clam
Beef curtain
Hoo haa
Coochi
If you have thought of any, please comment.
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